I wanted to share a little about being willing. I have found a big difference in being "able" to do something and being "willing" to do it. Kate is able to buckle her seat belt, get her own drinks, dress herself etc. But she lacks the willingness to do these things. She doesn't have the internal motivation driving her to do many things for herself. And what I want for her is for that motivation to be internal, not external.
And it is coming. I see her, at times, being excited and proud of something she just did. And not things like "I just made this cool car wash, or garbage disposal". Like writing the message. Or reading. Or doing 10 sit ups. She never has been excited about those things before Brain Balance.
I am excited that I can see her resistance fading and her willingness increasing.
She is beginning to say "SURE!" first, instead of an abrupt "NO!"
She is more willing... to try new exercises.....to go to a new park......to put on a new shirt.....to play an unfamiliar game....to look at things in a new way....to follow my lead.
I know my girls aren't in the same "situation" as yours but I've found with my girls-they usually lack internal motivation cause they're kids-why would they want to buckle their own seatbelt or make their own bed or do any of these things we make, want,need them to do. They are kids living in an adult world they see no need in doing these things we just get the fun job of nagging them to do these things even though they don't want to. Hoping that one day we won't need to nag as much and they will become functional happy adults! Ahh parenting tiring but worth it!!
ReplyDeleteYa, I don't think many kids have internal motivation to make their bed! Lol!
DeleteKate never really went through the "me do it" stage and I am hoping she soon will!!
PS. I soooo wish nagging would work, hahaha, I am pretty good at it, but the result is the same :(
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